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How to Build Resilience in Your Changing Family

Raising Kids |

Resilience is the ability to roll with both the ups and downs of life and not become overwhelmed in times of uncertainty. It is this ability to adapt that will serve your child well as they grow older and face greater challenges.

Divorce has added a wildcard to your child’s journey. Studies have shown children raised in healthy co-parenting relationships fare as well as those with married parents. But divorce becomes a risk factor when it’s acrimonious and negative. Ensure this change isn’t some sort of permanent sentence to a lifetime of sadness. Here are 6 ways you can help build resilience in your child as they cope with a separation or divorce:

  1. Avoid negative conversations and venting in front of your child.
  2. Maintain extracurricular involvement.
  3. Support academic success.
  4. Foster social skills and friendships.
  5. Help your child have supportive relationships with all of the trusted adults in their life.
  6. Model positive self talk. Say things like: “This has been hard, it’s been hard on everyone. But we’re getting through it, aren’t we? Let’s think about something we’re grateful for. For example,I’m grateful for X you.”

Change is happening or has happened in your family, but this does not mean it has to be scary. And it doesn’t mean things will feel crazy forever. Taking a proactive approach to building resilience will help your child bounce back and thrive within their new family structure.